15-02-2019 03:00 PM
15-02-2019 03:00 PM
After going to hospital appointments with a doctor since beginning of December onwards & practically begging for help & support- each time he told me they would give me support, he would organise a social worker for me & I should do the groups they offer- I would go home nothing would happen next appointment went exactly the same like Groundhog Day-
every appointment I went to I had to take my 7 year old daughter-( school holidays)- who sat in the room with me- although I did not feel comfortable discussing such traumatic things infront of her I gave her my phone to distract her & reluctantly did - all because of the promise of help!-which I knew I desperately needed!- this support, social worker & groups- (
these groups I attended when I had post natal depression & agoraphobia so badly after my daughter was born almost 8years ago that I could not enter the mother & baby unit at the hospital to get the help I needed because my agoraphobia was so bad it would not let me)-These groups were the main thing in my recovery back then from agoraphobia- so was really looking forward to going to them as they were the only thing that helped before.
I got a phone call yesterday saying I couldn't go to the group program- when I questioned why- I was told "IV already attended & been given the chance to learn the skills & it is not an ongoing thing that you can keep going back to "- I went 8 years ago!! I can't remember anything learnt back then & just because I went once 8 years ago doesn't mean I am cured for the rest of my life- I am just as bad- if not worse now- as my mother has died who was my support person & I have isolated myself from other family due to their ongoing abuse--mental illness has a cyclic nature of getting better & worse going round & round-& I have suffered so much trauma since then.
I asked about a social worker- the response I get was " What For?"-
i am so frustrated, & let down by the system I just want to give up--
& the worst part of it all is - I had exposed my daughter to everything that I said which I would NEVER NEVER NEVER do-BUT for the fact I was completely desperate for help & was being promised help that did not ever come- they discharged my case- no explanation-& now My DAUGHTER is suffering because of Being dragged along to these appointments & it was completely all for nothing.
I feel I have damaged my child by trying to get help for myself & have been turned away.
They tell me to contact a certain agency for help- which is the agency I have been having trouble with the support worker I was given & cannot get through to them at all & they don't call me back!
the support worker I had told me she would put in a request for a new worker for me on 2Jan when their office opened & a third party told me she did not do that like she told me but instead went on holidays & didn't put in the request & they just don't call me back at all & I am starting to really take it personally because how long does it take to contact someone who is clearly in distress & needs support?
I am so worried about my child because I can see a huge change in her-she is struggling at school- having trouble making friends and she has always been so happy confident & strong-& had so many friends & I feel responsible for taking her to the appointments that have eventuated in nothing!
I feel so let down by the system it is a complete waste of time & joke
15-02-2019 08:15 PM
15-02-2019 08:15 PM
@Serenity1 i am sorry this sounds horrible. do you have the funds for private treatment options? if you do i would suggest finding a private psychologist or if there are any other private or no government organisations that run support groups. it is really frustrsating that people cant get help when they need it.
15-02-2019 08:18 PM
15-02-2019 08:18 PM
Hi @Serenity1 , I'm sorry to read so much as been going on for you. It can feel very hopeless and guilt sounds like a big thing regarding your daughter.
But I am also reading the resilience and the fighting spirit you do have - despite that it might feel hopeless right now - and that you have tried a lot of things.
Does anyone have any advice or suggestions about riding this initial wave of discomfort?
A famous saying I cannot remember who said...'this too shall pass' comes to mind. As much as it might feel like it wouldn't pass...
Take care of yourself. Thecolourblue
16-02-2019 05:50 AM
16-02-2019 05:50 AM
@Serenity1 Hi Jojo7 I agree totally with @Eden1919 in trying to get a private psychologist/psychiatrist. I have found a wonderful private psychiatrist and now have a mental health nurs who looks after me 24/7. I couldn't do it without either of them. I am only on the carer's pension but it is worth it. I have used the public system in the past and found it very ordinary so wouldn't go back. As for your daughter in truth I wouldn't take her to appointments. If that meant organizing a baby sitter from an agency so be it. That is not a dig at you please do not think that I just don't think kids need to hear/see their mum in distress.
BTW you sound a lovely person and this situation will pass as @Former-Member rightly says it is not forever so bear that in mind. Take good care of yourself. Love greenpea xx
16-02-2019 08:59 AM
16-02-2019 08:59 AM
I can feel your pain and anguish. Are you okay right now?
It sounds like you NEED support sweetheart, not just for you, but for your little girl. I can relate because I am a mum too with a young girl who looks to me for guidance.
I am not going to tell you what you should do, I am just going to be here to support you whenever you need me okay :ok_hand:
Take care and be kind to you 🌹
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