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15-02-2019 03:00 PM
15-02-2019 03:00 PM
Let down
After going to hospital appointments with a doctor since beginning of December onwards & practically begging for help & support- each time he told me they would give me support, he would organise a social worker for me & I should do the groups they offer- I would go home nothing would happen next appointment went exactly the same like Groundhog Day-
every appointment I went to I had to take my 7 year old daughter-( school holidays)- who sat in the room with me- although I did not feel comfortable discussing such traumatic things infront of her I gave her my phone to distract her & reluctantly did - all because of the promise of help!-which I knew I desperately needed!- this support, social worker & groups- (
these groups I attended when I had post natal depression & agoraphobia so badly after my daughter was born almost 8years ago that I could not enter the mother & baby unit at the hospital to get the help I needed because my agoraphobia was so bad it would not let me)-These groups were the main thing in my recovery back then from agoraphobia- so was really looking forward to going to them as they were the only thing that helped before.
I got a phone call yesterday saying I couldn't go to the group program- when I questioned why- I was told "IV already attended & been given the chance to learn the skills & it is not an ongoing thing that you can keep going back to "- I went 8 years ago!! I can't remember anything learnt back then & just because I went once 8 years ago doesn't mean I am cured for the rest of my life- I am just as bad- if not worse now- as my mother has died who was my support person & I have isolated myself from other family due to their ongoing abuse--mental illness has a cyclic nature of getting better & worse going round & round-& I have suffered so much trauma since then.
I asked about a social worker- the response I get was " What For?"-
i am so frustrated, & let down by the system I just want to give up--
& the worst part of it all is - I had exposed my daughter to everything that I said which I would NEVER NEVER NEVER do-BUT for the fact I was completely desperate for help & was being promised help that did not ever come- they discharged my case- no explanation-& now My DAUGHTER is suffering because of Being dragged along to these appointments & it was completely all for nothing.
I feel I have damaged my child by trying to get help for myself & have been turned away.
They tell me to contact a certain agency for help- which is the agency I have been having trouble with the support worker I was given & cannot get through to them at all & they don't call me back!
the support worker I had told me she would put in a request for a new worker for me on 2Jan when their office opened & a third party told me she did not do that like she told me but instead went on holidays & didn't put in the request & they just don't call me back at all & I am starting to really take it personally because how long does it take to contact someone who is clearly in distress & needs support?
I am so worried about my child because I can see a huge change in her-she is struggling at school- having trouble making friends and she has always been so happy confident & strong-& had so many friends & I feel responsible for taking her to the appointments that have eventuated in nothing!
I feel so let down by the system it is a complete waste of time & joke
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15-02-2019 08:15 PM
15-02-2019 08:15 PM
Re: Let down
@Serenity1 i am sorry this sounds horrible. do you have the funds for private treatment options? if you do i would suggest finding a private psychologist or if there are any other private or no government organisations that run support groups. it is really frustrsating that people cant get help when they need it.
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15-02-2019 08:18 PM
15-02-2019 08:18 PM
Re: Let down
Hi @Serenity1 , I'm sorry to read so much as been going on for you. It can feel very hopeless and guilt sounds like a big thing regarding your daughter.
But I am also reading the resilience and the fighting spirit you do have - despite that it might feel hopeless right now - and that you have tried a lot of things.
Does anyone have any advice or suggestions about riding this initial wave of discomfort?
A famous saying I cannot remember who said...'this too shall pass' comes to mind. As much as it might feel like it wouldn't pass...
Take care of yourself. Thecolourblue
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16-02-2019 05:50 AM
16-02-2019 05:50 AM
Re: Let down
@Serenity1 Hi Jojo7 I agree totally with @Eden1919 in trying to get a private psychologist/psychiatrist. I have found a wonderful private psychiatrist and now have a mental health nurs who looks after me 24/7. I couldn't do it without either of them. I am only on the carer's pension but it is worth it. I have used the public system in the past and found it very ordinary so wouldn't go back. As for your daughter in truth I wouldn't take her to appointments. If that meant organizing a baby sitter from an agency so be it. That is not a dig at you please do not think that I just don't think kids need to hear/see their mum in distress.
BTW you sound a lovely person and this situation will pass as @Former-Member rightly says it is not forever so bear that in mind. Take good care of yourself. Love greenpea xx
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16-02-2019 08:59 AM
16-02-2019 08:59 AM
Re: Let down
I can feel your pain and anguish. Are you okay right now?
It sounds like you NEED support sweetheart, not just for you, but for your little girl. I can relate because I am a mum too with a young girl who looks to me for guidance.
I am not going to tell you what you should do, I am just going to be here to support you whenever you need me okay :ok_hand:
Take care and be kind to you 🌹
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16-02-2019 01:54 PM
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