22-04-2024 05:37 PM
22-04-2024 05:37 PM
Time my @Former-Member 😔
Big relief in one way and sadness in another way
Mum wanted to be cremated and no service so I am doing her wishes
But my cousin is organising a family lunch for her which is OK to me
@Jynx , @tyme , @RiverSeal , @Tilz , @Blackbird11
22-04-2024 06:02 PM
22-04-2024 06:02 PM
oh dearest, yes, I do understand the conflicting emotions @Shaz51 💜
(I cared for my great aunt till her last days🌺)
Do you have someone to stand by and support you as you go through these things? And that sounds like a nice thing to do, having a lunch together xx
22-04-2024 06:58 PM
22-04-2024 06:58 PM
Glad my cousin ❤️ in doing the lunch @Former-Member , @PizzaMondo 👍
22-04-2024 07:17 PM
22-04-2024 07:17 PM
Yeah that does sound really good @Shaz51 🤗💞
22-04-2024 07:22 PM
22-04-2024 07:22 PM
Hello @Former-Member , @Jynx
It is hard to do a loved ones decision and the family expectations of what you should do
But I am glad my aunty ( mum's sister is backing me)
And I am glad my cousin is doing the family lunch
22-04-2024 07:31 PM
22-04-2024 07:31 PM
Expectations can be so hard to contend with @Shaz51. I am sure you will make the right decision, and remember it's okay if not everyone is happy - we can't please everyone hey.
22-04-2024 07:34 PM
22-04-2024 07:34 PM
Yes my @Jynx
Today I arranged what my mum wanted ❤️
22-04-2024 07:41 PM
22-04-2024 07:41 PM
The hardest but greatest thing to do is follow wishes @Shaz51 💜
The special and heartfelt focus here is doing what your mum requested, and not so much doing what other people want... I found that when people wanted something different, it was a reflection on their grief, and what they felt they needed to cope, now and into the future. However, this is about your mum, what she wanted, and that honoured place of trust that she gave you to kindly carry out her last, dearest xx
Hugs and more hugs for you Shazzie 💜
22-04-2024 07:46 PM
22-04-2024 07:46 PM
@Former-Member summed it up so perfectly, I have nothing more to add - except a big pile of hugs for you @Shaz51
🫂🫂🫂
22-04-2024 07:49 PM
22-04-2024 07:49 PM
Thank you ❤️ My @Jynx , @Former-Member
I did what mum wanted and it is done xxxx
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