@Captain24 aww sounds like a really lovely, soul-refreshing kinda holiday!! Love it!
@Captain24 wrote:
You planted the seed that it was there but to actually hear it was different. I’m not sure how I feel about it. But it does explain so much like why I’m a bad person and can’t hold proper conversations. Why I’m not empathetic. It’s something I’ll have to discuss with my psych and come up with strategies to work with it better and become a better person.
Waaaaait wait wait hold the PHONE - who has been telling you that autistic folks are bad people? Or that we lack empathy? Cos that is just stigma darlin, and it pains me that this is how you think of yourself and other autistic folk. It's okay though, all part of that acceptance and 're-lensing' process (aka re-examining your life through a new 'lens' of self-knowledge).
I think the whole myth about us 'lacking empathy' potentially comes from two factors - a) Autistic folks often express empathy differently (for example, it's more common for us to empathise by sharing a similar story to express 'hey I have felt that way before too and know how hard it is', which can be misinterpreted as an attempt to make it all about us); and b) in my experience autistic folk are often more empathetic and may need to withdraw because it can be too overwhelming for us to stay with the feelings.
Happy to ramble about ND stuff if you got questions or anything 😊
Noooo poor Jett!! I keep fingers crossed for a swift recovery 🤞
Kitties are gooooood hehe got this pic of Razz being a derp the other day!
I’m not saying everyone @Jynx. I just see those traits in me. I’m self centred. I can be empathetic at times but not usually when I’m suppose to be. I miss those cues. Like.. the girl I saw was talking about how she thought her cat was going to die and I then talked about my day from the day before. That wasn’t a nice thing to do or say. I miss a lot of social cues.
I do the ‘I know’ thing a lot and then feel bad. That’s me beating myself up for not being caring enough or listening enough.
I have lots of questions around strategies to make me a better person. Like how do I stop being me? How do I train my brain to be less me and more like others? But I guess that’s all for my psych who I only see 2 more times before she goes away for 8 weeks!
He’s doing heaps better today. Been chewing on bones and had a play with Keiko.
That’s cute!!
The treats are in the cupboard!
